I'm guessing you've seen this, but I find that it works as a great encapsulation of the inanity and mendacity of Gender Theory:
Sexism: “The woman must do the dishes.”
Feminism: “Anyone can do the dishes.”
Gender ideology: “Whoever does the dishes is the woman.”
When I think of Gender Theory I picture people being released from the cages marked "Traditional Sex Roles", imagining they're being liberated, but only to be quickly locked inside new cages with different labels: "Trans" "NB" "Cis" "Femme" "Masc" etc.
Gender Theory is regressive gay erasure, but while it's useless for truth and sense-making, it shares with the other Crit Theories a magician's facility with deceptive jargon and a punitive moralism that bullies just about everyone into believing that its proponents are the incarnation of liberation while its opponents are cruel, intolerant fascists.
The Gender zealots' ultimate goal is moving the Marxist war against reality into our children's underwear drawer, all to smash the oppressive mammalian sex binary, but it will end like all Marxist eruptions have ended in the modern West: thousands of broken bodies and miserable victims, a whole new class of Theorists fat and happy with sinecures and book deals, with all of it brushed under the rug and no one held responsible (or even losing a job or missing a meal) because they did it "for a good cause" "with their hearts in the right place".
If only Dr. Frankenstein had thought to change the sex of his revitalized corpses, he would have gone from cautionary tale to full professorship at Berkeley.
I wish I could remember, I found it and kept it sometime last year. It really hits the nail on the head! Maybe some internet sleuthing can find the creator, I'll let you know if I find out.
What you said about how nobody will be held accountable has been on my mind. I think Andrew Gold talked about that recently. After the recent ruling in the UK, Keir Starmer just went about things as if he never denied there were only two sexes. Incredible. We all get cancelled and broken bodied victims all about, and the 'Gender Zealots' will just move on like nothing happened. It's like living with an addict.
>Gender ideology: “Whoever does the dishes is the woman.”
No, gender ideology is more "Whoever wants to identify as a woman is a woman, irrespective of who does the dishes."
Here's the skinny: there are still gender norms, roles, and rules in place today. Yes, those rules are much more relaxed than even fifty years ago, but they are still there. Some people want to specifically be women, not just feminine. Some people want to be feminine and not be women, and that's fine!
Reading these words from the post above yesterday in the e-mail I receive from your substack spurred me to subscribe:
<<Anyway, back to me. If I hadn’t done everything I could as a young person to de-feminize myself in order to stave off the bullies and instead just naturally evolved into an adult androgyne, would I too have started identifying as a transwoman and gotten sucked into prostitution? Or would I have been able to lead a normal, healthy life?>>
I saw parallels between your story and my own.
My Freshman year in high school was particularly challenging when my best friend, one with whom I could share my nerdiness, had a very public relationship with a new girl--with lots of smooching in the Bio Lab. I had never felt so isolated, rejected even. I had never felt so alone. I wondered if something was wrong with me. What did I need to do to fit in?
I asked those questions, but didn't have the words then to express my feelings. I felt I was losing my best friend. (It didn't occur to me that I was upset because he was dating girls just like all the more popular guys did.) I knew I was upset and let my parents know. They did the best they could and sent me to a social worker. Alas that he wasn't very helpful.
When I hear what's going on in some high schools today, I wondered what would have happened to a boy like me sent to see a social worker today. Your words in this post indicate that others have similar fears.
Our situations are different. Our stories are different. But we were both born in bodies correspondent to our natures--even if we don't conform to traditional social expectations of our sex.
Smart piece. Thanks for provoking these thoughts and for giving me this platform to comment--and for your courage in expressing yourself so powerfully.
Seriously, I think that with respect to all minority sexualities, whether orientation, identification, presentation, or other, we neglect at our peril the lessons of social contagion which, in the teenage FTN context, have become incontestable.(typo corrected)
To whom you are attracted sexually is purely subjective and therefore cannot reasonably be contested by an outside observer.
Where you decide to live your life on a spectrum of superficial, stereotypical male to female attributes (and we all do) is also purely subjective and similarly cannot be questioned.
However, your biological sex reflects an objective reality which cannot be changed by your subjective personal view and futile attempts to do so can result in serious health impacts to you as well as harms to members of the sex you are impersonating (primarily women).
Others who are grounded in objective reality should never be forced to accept your subjective version of your actual biological sex.
Finally, it's past time for the LGB community to separate themselves from the trans activists who are trying to take away the rights of women to fairness in sports and to privacy and safety in their restrooms, locker rooms and prisons. They also advocate for the chemical and surgical mutilation of children many of whom would grow up gay.
Their actions are evil and the
understandable negative reaction to the harm they are causing is spilling over to innocent people who are just going about their business, marrying and leading their lives.
„It would probably be easier to answer these questions if there were a lot of truly femme-presenting gay men in the West who still identify as men and who lead normal, healthy lives.” - John Maclean?
Tbh im now not sure if he’s gay, because I’ve always assumed that from mannerisms (imo very reasonable assumption, doesn’t behave like crossdresser/AGP type)
And also you can search twitter for outrage about transing Brigitte from Guilty Gear. Lots of people stated they are feminine gay men and Brigitte was very important representation for them, why do you take that from us. (I was outraged too and argued on Facebook that these people aren’t transphobic)
After much thought and time in the GC movement, I've come to see the use of the term "trans" or "transgender" itself as a big part of the problem.The "Ricky" type as you call it is what was always called 'transsexual' until the TRA lobby started telling everyone to say "transgender" instead. They did this so that the other kind, the aggressive 6'2" linebacker in pigtails who is a transvestite. aka Autogynephile, could be deceptively subsumed under the new victim class label of transgender. As you point out, these groups have nothing in common. But the linebacker AGPs who vastly outnumber the Rickys have rapidly infiltrated society while hiding behind the trans label.
The normies are being told that Ricky just wants to "pass" and quietly go to the women's toilet in peace, that he'd never hurt a fly, and that if you don't affirm/accept him he'll kill himself! Meanwhile, linebackers in pigtails who get off on making women uncomfortable by infiltrating their private spaces are marching everywhere, demanding access to women only spaces and sports, co-opting the entire Democratic Party and Progressive establishment, infliltrating every university, public school, publishing house, athletic association, blue state government branch, the UN, Amnesty International, the World Health Organization, Reddit, TikTok, Medium, every public library, the CDC, the American Medical Association, American Academy of Pediatrics, the DSM V, Scientific American, Science, NOW, the ACLU, NPR, PBS, etc. etc. to push this garbage.
You have described the biological dilema eloquently in you last couple of paragraphs. What one can't do is force attraction by other men. The gay identity and not homosexuality has attempted to do this for nearly 60 years. Normal complete homosexual men want men. I agree transition doesn't work for them. They will still be seen by most as gay men. Typical make bodies, and typical male features. They unfortunately are left with only one option. Celibacy.
An uncomfortable truth about being a feminine gay guy. They could develope Autoandrophilia. Many have been studied who have done this. They then may get some shott term attention, but nothing long term. I have a friend who's in that position. In his late 40s now. Goes the gym 3 times a week. He's been single the 20 years I've known him.
You talk about societal acceptance. I think we live in a time in the west so vastly different than it used to be. It now totaly fine to be open about being gay. Very differnt than even 20 years ago.
You can solve societies acceptance, but you can't solve who someone finds attractive other than a body.
Great newsletter. I learn so much new lingo from you. Spiked just had an article related to what you are talking about and I'm starting to understand how being a Sex Worker is becoming normalized by the gender craze people. The Spike article has a picture of a famous actor that I used to like in a t-shirt that says "Protect the Dolls." It was upsetting for me to see that he wore that shirt. This was my comment: "Well here we are and it's in-your-face marketing. Like Judith Butler said, womanhood is really just a social construct and male/female is just about performance. Autogynephiles AGP's and the Drag cult want children to believe a women is just a costume that anyone can be transformed into or an act/identity anyone can perform--ruin the girls and make boys into dolls. The grooming of boys is real and being normalized. "It makes one think of sex dolls, and thus ‘sissy porn’. This is the unwholesome genre of porn in which a man is ‘forced’ to transform into a woman, whether through the administration of hormones or the donning of makeup and lingerie." Scary times. https://www.spiked-online.com/2025/05/05/protect-the-dolls-is-trans-activism-at-its-creepiest/?fbclid=IwY2xjawKJDHxleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBicmlkETFubnVKVTZnVEI0OUQ0cUlnAR7nb5uWOf9i-C_MFLMsh7h-MEHDNrJBQeL0oJaa3Dvq_m0wC_JfMzx_EyRMJA_aem_ApVvBgUTBLPSzc9ZJcx3tw
Males compulsively impersonating women must work quite hard to keep up the facade. One way they do so is to become hyperfeminine to counteract the underlying male sex.
That’s why you see the hooker look so prevalent. It’s the most assertive version of sexual mimicry.
If you consider that these are just men with a compulsion to imitate women all the behaviors start to make sense.
>Anyway, back to me. If I hadn’t done everything I could as a young person to de-feminize myself in order to stave off the bullies and instead just naturally evolved into an adult androgyne, would I too have started identifying as a transwoman and gotten sucked into prostitution?
Probably not, at least not in regards to being "sucked into prostitution."
You talk about femme gays being forced into medicalization by society, but it seems to me that that's what they want--they want to be feminine in order to attract straight men. This isn't about regressive social norms--it's just the biological reality of what straight men are attracted to. And as you note, many gays who don't identify as femme were just bullied out of it.
Another thing: you mention Pear Joseph, but he's extremely fortunate in naturally looking highly androgynous. Most males past their early 20s could only achieve that look with medical intervention.
I'm guessing you've seen this, but I find that it works as a great encapsulation of the inanity and mendacity of Gender Theory:
Sexism: “The woman must do the dishes.”
Feminism: “Anyone can do the dishes.”
Gender ideology: “Whoever does the dishes is the woman.”
When I think of Gender Theory I picture people being released from the cages marked "Traditional Sex Roles", imagining they're being liberated, but only to be quickly locked inside new cages with different labels: "Trans" "NB" "Cis" "Femme" "Masc" etc.
Gender Theory is regressive gay erasure, but while it's useless for truth and sense-making, it shares with the other Crit Theories a magician's facility with deceptive jargon and a punitive moralism that bullies just about everyone into believing that its proponents are the incarnation of liberation while its opponents are cruel, intolerant fascists.
The Gender zealots' ultimate goal is moving the Marxist war against reality into our children's underwear drawer, all to smash the oppressive mammalian sex binary, but it will end like all Marxist eruptions have ended in the modern West: thousands of broken bodies and miserable victims, a whole new class of Theorists fat and happy with sinecures and book deals, with all of it brushed under the rug and no one held responsible (or even losing a job or missing a meal) because they did it "for a good cause" "with their hearts in the right place".
If only Dr. Frankenstein had thought to change the sex of his revitalized corpses, he would have gone from cautionary tale to full professorship at Berkeley.
Who’s responsible for that wonderful encapsulation relating to doing the dishes? I’d love to quote it and give proper credit.
I wish I could remember, I found it and kept it sometime last year. It really hits the nail on the head! Maybe some internet sleuthing can find the creator, I'll let you know if I find out.
Cheers
My simple analogy was:
Sexism: Because you’re a woman, you must wear a dress and act feminine.
Which was stupid.
Gender Theory: because you wear a dress and act feminine, you must be a woman.
Equally stupid!
But I like the doing the dishes analogy even better.
What you said about how nobody will be held accountable has been on my mind. I think Andrew Gold talked about that recently. After the recent ruling in the UK, Keir Starmer just went about things as if he never denied there were only two sexes. Incredible. We all get cancelled and broken bodied victims all about, and the 'Gender Zealots' will just move on like nothing happened. It's like living with an addict.
Wonderfully said, thank you!
thanks!
> Sexism: “The woman must do the dishes.”
> Feminism: “Anyone can do the dishes.”
> Gender ideology: “Whoever does the dishes is the woman.”
Hey, bullies were saying that long before gender ideology came about.
>Gender ideology: “Whoever does the dishes is the woman.”
No, gender ideology is more "Whoever wants to identify as a woman is a woman, irrespective of who does the dishes."
Here's the skinny: there are still gender norms, roles, and rules in place today. Yes, those rules are much more relaxed than even fifty years ago, but they are still there. Some people want to specifically be women, not just feminine. Some people want to be feminine and not be women, and that's fine!
Reading these words from the post above yesterday in the e-mail I receive from your substack spurred me to subscribe:
<<Anyway, back to me. If I hadn’t done everything I could as a young person to de-feminize myself in order to stave off the bullies and instead just naturally evolved into an adult androgyne, would I too have started identifying as a transwoman and gotten sucked into prostitution? Or would I have been able to lead a normal, healthy life?>>
I saw parallels between your story and my own.
My Freshman year in high school was particularly challenging when my best friend, one with whom I could share my nerdiness, had a very public relationship with a new girl--with lots of smooching in the Bio Lab. I had never felt so isolated, rejected even. I had never felt so alone. I wondered if something was wrong with me. What did I need to do to fit in?
I asked those questions, but didn't have the words then to express my feelings. I felt I was losing my best friend. (It didn't occur to me that I was upset because he was dating girls just like all the more popular guys did.) I knew I was upset and let my parents know. They did the best they could and sent me to a social worker. Alas that he wasn't very helpful.
When I hear what's going on in some high schools today, I wondered what would have happened to a boy like me sent to see a social worker today. Your words in this post indicate that others have similar fears.
Our situations are different. Our stories are different. But we were both born in bodies correspondent to our natures--even if we don't conform to traditional social expectations of our sex.
Smart piece. Thanks for provoking these thoughts and for giving me this platform to comment--and for your courage in expressing yourself so powerfully.
Well said!
You made the right choice.
Seriously, I think that with respect to all minority sexualities, whether orientation, identification, presentation, or other, we neglect at our peril the lessons of social contagion which, in the teenage FTN context, have become incontestable.(typo corrected)
Brilliant essay.
Thoughtful and enlightening discussion. Ordered your book and expect to learn more.
Uncle Bill
To whom you are attracted sexually is purely subjective and therefore cannot reasonably be contested by an outside observer.
Where you decide to live your life on a spectrum of superficial, stereotypical male to female attributes (and we all do) is also purely subjective and similarly cannot be questioned.
However, your biological sex reflects an objective reality which cannot be changed by your subjective personal view and futile attempts to do so can result in serious health impacts to you as well as harms to members of the sex you are impersonating (primarily women).
Others who are grounded in objective reality should never be forced to accept your subjective version of your actual biological sex.
Finally, it's past time for the LGB community to separate themselves from the trans activists who are trying to take away the rights of women to fairness in sports and to privacy and safety in their restrooms, locker rooms and prisons. They also advocate for the chemical and surgical mutilation of children many of whom would grow up gay.
Their actions are evil and the
understandable negative reaction to the harm they are causing is spilling over to innocent people who are just going about their business, marrying and leading their lives.
„It would probably be easier to answer these questions if there were a lot of truly femme-presenting gay men in the West who still identify as men and who lead normal, healthy lives.” - John Maclean?
Thanks, I had never heard of him.
Tbh im now not sure if he’s gay, because I’ve always assumed that from mannerisms (imo very reasonable assumption, doesn’t behave like crossdresser/AGP type)
And also you can search twitter for outrage about transing Brigitte from Guilty Gear. Lots of people stated they are feminine gay men and Brigitte was very important representation for them, why do you take that from us. (I was outraged too and argued on Facebook that these people aren’t transphobic)
After much thought and time in the GC movement, I've come to see the use of the term "trans" or "transgender" itself as a big part of the problem.The "Ricky" type as you call it is what was always called 'transsexual' until the TRA lobby started telling everyone to say "transgender" instead. They did this so that the other kind, the aggressive 6'2" linebacker in pigtails who is a transvestite. aka Autogynephile, could be deceptively subsumed under the new victim class label of transgender. As you point out, these groups have nothing in common. But the linebacker AGPs who vastly outnumber the Rickys have rapidly infiltrated society while hiding behind the trans label.
The normies are being told that Ricky just wants to "pass" and quietly go to the women's toilet in peace, that he'd never hurt a fly, and that if you don't affirm/accept him he'll kill himself! Meanwhile, linebackers in pigtails who get off on making women uncomfortable by infiltrating their private spaces are marching everywhere, demanding access to women only spaces and sports, co-opting the entire Democratic Party and Progressive establishment, infliltrating every university, public school, publishing house, athletic association, blue state government branch, the UN, Amnesty International, the World Health Organization, Reddit, TikTok, Medium, every public library, the CDC, the American Medical Association, American Academy of Pediatrics, the DSM V, Scientific American, Science, NOW, the ACLU, NPR, PBS, etc. etc. to push this garbage.
You have described the biological dilema eloquently in you last couple of paragraphs. What one can't do is force attraction by other men. The gay identity and not homosexuality has attempted to do this for nearly 60 years. Normal complete homosexual men want men. I agree transition doesn't work for them. They will still be seen by most as gay men. Typical make bodies, and typical male features. They unfortunately are left with only one option. Celibacy.
An uncomfortable truth about being a feminine gay guy. They could develope Autoandrophilia. Many have been studied who have done this. They then may get some shott term attention, but nothing long term. I have a friend who's in that position. In his late 40s now. Goes the gym 3 times a week. He's been single the 20 years I've known him.
You talk about societal acceptance. I think we live in a time in the west so vastly different than it used to be. It now totaly fine to be open about being gay. Very differnt than even 20 years ago.
You can solve societies acceptance, but you can't solve who someone finds attractive other than a body.
Great newsletter. I learn so much new lingo from you. Spiked just had an article related to what you are talking about and I'm starting to understand how being a Sex Worker is becoming normalized by the gender craze people. The Spike article has a picture of a famous actor that I used to like in a t-shirt that says "Protect the Dolls." It was upsetting for me to see that he wore that shirt. This was my comment: "Well here we are and it's in-your-face marketing. Like Judith Butler said, womanhood is really just a social construct and male/female is just about performance. Autogynephiles AGP's and the Drag cult want children to believe a women is just a costume that anyone can be transformed into or an act/identity anyone can perform--ruin the girls and make boys into dolls. The grooming of boys is real and being normalized. "It makes one think of sex dolls, and thus ‘sissy porn’. This is the unwholesome genre of porn in which a man is ‘forced’ to transform into a woman, whether through the administration of hormones or the donning of makeup and lingerie." Scary times. https://www.spiked-online.com/2025/05/05/protect-the-dolls-is-trans-activism-at-its-creepiest/?fbclid=IwY2xjawKJDHxleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBicmlkETFubnVKVTZnVEI0OUQ0cUlnAR7nb5uWOf9i-C_MFLMsh7h-MEHDNrJBQeL0oJaa3Dvq_m0wC_JfMzx_EyRMJA_aem_ApVvBgUTBLPSzc9ZJcx3tw
You all have been through a non-consensual psychological experiment
Illuminating and persuasive - and as ever, simpatico. Thanks!
Males compulsively impersonating women must work quite hard to keep up the facade. One way they do so is to become hyperfeminine to counteract the underlying male sex.
That’s why you see the hooker look so prevalent. It’s the most assertive version of sexual mimicry.
If you consider that these are just men with a compulsion to imitate women all the behaviors start to make sense.
>Anyway, back to me. If I hadn’t done everything I could as a young person to de-feminize myself in order to stave off the bullies and instead just naturally evolved into an adult androgyne, would I too have started identifying as a transwoman and gotten sucked into prostitution?
Probably not, at least not in regards to being "sucked into prostitution."
Australia has Christian Wilkins
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_Wilkins_(model)
You talk about femme gays being forced into medicalization by society, but it seems to me that that's what they want--they want to be feminine in order to attract straight men. This isn't about regressive social norms--it's just the biological reality of what straight men are attracted to. And as you note, many gays who don't identify as femme were just bullied out of it.
Another thing: you mention Pear Joseph, but he's extremely fortunate in naturally looking highly androgynous. Most males past their early 20s could only achieve that look with medical intervention.