My book publishes in November

Which means there will soon be even more people calling me a terrible person.

My book Cis White Gay: The Making of a Gender Heretic is now available for preorder. This is really happening. My uncensored thoughts are going to be out there, in book form, for all to see.

This means that in a few months time I’ll be getting even more DMs from old friends (What happened to you?), more shitty quote tweets from strangers (TRANS PEOPLE ARE DYING, ASSHOLE #kys), and plenty (although hopefully not too many) of scathing book reviews written by improperly medicated he/theys (As a non-binary pansexual writing their dissertation on queer embodiment…).

I probably shouldn’t admit this, but I’m scared. Hardly anything spikes my anxiety like people thinking I’m a bad person. A friend I’ve known forever recently said to me, “This is the most intense form of exposure therapy you could do.”

But I know who I am today. I’m confident in my convictions. And that’s why I wanted to write this book. I didn’t want to just tell people what I think. I wanted to explain how and why I came to see things the way I see them. They might disagree with my opinions on charged topics like gender, race, religion, politics, academia, etc. But at least they’ll see that I didn’t form these opinions out of thin air or inherit them from someone else. They’ll see that I came to these conclusions on my own.

And that’s basically what the book’s about: How I learned to think for myself. It’s about how a girly young boy in a religious cult, plagued by shame and self-doubt, grew into a gay man who dares to challenge established narratives and orthodoxies, especially when it comes to gender.

At the end of the day, I might die alone on some hill. But at least I will have told the truth.

Some of the people who were given a review copy of the book have started to get back to me with their thoughts about it.

Konstantin Kisin, cohost of the Triggernometry podcast, called it "a fascinating and horrifying look at how the social justice sausage is made.”

Julie Bindel, author of Lesbians: Where Are We Now?, said, “This excellent book provides one of the clearest arguments to date as to how we must view gender ideology as a cult.” She added that I’ve written the book “with humour, compassion, and, refreshingly, a little righteous anger.”

This means so much to me. Because I really put my heart and soul into this project. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Many, many times over the last three years I wanted to give up. But I kept going.

I can’t wait for all of you to read to it. From the bottom of my heart, thank you to everyone who has cheered me along. And thank you so much to all of you who have placed preorders! My publisher is thrilled.